June 25, 2019
Over the years I’ve noticed the same question that arises with every bride that I chat with. First looks, should we, or shouldn’t we? I recently had a follower over on Instagram ask me my opinion of first looks. She was torn on whether or not they should do one. I’ve never shared my view of this topic on the blog. That is what inspired me to share this with you today. I thought about all the other brides wondering what the best decision is for them as well.
I’m not writing this post to persuade you in any way. If you follow my stories on Instagram you know that I’m real and honest, or at least I hope you know that. I’m not a sugar coated person. I want you to take all the facts for what they are and make your own decisions based on what is right for you and your partner.
The “tradition” of why the groom doesn’t see the bride before the wedding.
I turned to google, but I will tell you I found a lot of articles repeating the same information. Me being the Southern Living loving gal that I am turned to their blog. Here’s what they had to say from their post “The concept of it being bad luck to see the bride before the ceremony actually started from arranged marriages, where it was believed that if a bride and groom saw each other before the big day, they’d have enough time to call off the wedding.” Here’s the link for reference, with a few other fun facts about wedding traditions I had no idea about click here.
Now that we know why the tradition started. I’m going to break down the pros and cons to having a first look vs not having a first look. Again, I want to stress that I don’t care what you do, I’m here to make you happy, and if that means no first look that’s perfect for me, and I assure you that if I’m not your photographer your photographer doesn’t mind either. Our job is to be there for you and be supportive.
Pros and cons to having a first look
Pros and cons to not having a first look
I think this covers most of the pros and cons. Both options are very doable. I think having these things to think about will help each of you as you continue to plan. Neither option is right or wrong. It’s about what you want as a couple. Take a few days and reflect about it all and pray about it. You’ll know what to do, I promise.
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